In case you missed last week’s online presentation from Northeast parent and Fairfield University’s Dr. Evelyn Bilias Lolis, please take a minute to read this note from Dr. Bilias Lolis for a brief recap of the session–
“Northeast families, I was truly humbled and overwhelmed by the generosity of your time, participation, and kind words with respect to our parenting seminar last Thursday evening. The respite, connection, and hope that emerge when we commune is a source of strength for all of us. There is no doubt that this past year has been quite a marathon, and if our nerves and patience are tried it is well within reason. However, the tending to our well-being directly impacts the well-being of our children. There is a direct correlation here. Introducing a meaningful self-regimen requires far more than a Peloton subscription or healthy eating. In fact, it only begins there. Practicing mindfulness, gratitude, and self-compassion takes gritty commitment and daily exercise, quite similar to developing a physical muscle. It is no way an easy process, but the gains do manifest if you persevere faithfully. Try to incorporate one mindful activity each day into your daily routine (and the routine of your family). This can be in the form of a guided meditation through an app like Headspace, Calm, or Smiling Mind; it can be a nature walk with keen focus on your senses (sight, smell, sound, etc.); or a family meal where you enjoy each bite and each other’s company free of distractions. Likewise, try to list 3-5 things for which you are grateful each day (from the last 24 hours). Be very specific (i.e., I am grateful that I got to read Johnny a book before bed; I am grateful for making that perfect cup of coffee this morning). Maintain a daily gratitude list in a journal (no need to summarize just bullet 3-5 things each night). Further, make connections a priority. Anything you can do to make another human being feel seen, heard, and cared for does wonders for their health and yours too. Finally, have mercy on yourself, on your spouse, on your child. Forgive generously. Address the concern without judgment, express your love, and let go. There is no magic equation—commit to one thing, once a day, and forgive often—your mind, body, and heart will thank you for it. –Dr. Evelyn”
You can explore more on this top at Dr. Bilias Lolis’ website. Thank you to her for a very affirming and positive presentation.